Episode 3. How to Just Be: 6 Practices in Finding, Knowing, and Being Yourself

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Marie Groover (00:04.248)

Welcome to episode three of the Spiritual 9to5 podcast hosted by myself, Marie Groover of The Corporate Psychic. Today I'm going to share six practices in finding, knowing, and being yourself. But first I'll talk about what it looks like to live in authenticity and in alignment with your soul and your purpose as a basis for why to even be yourself in the first place.

Marie Groover (00:29.39)

When you are living in your purpose, AKA living authentically, being connected and truly embodied in yourself, life isn't easier, but your navigation of it is. And you'll still get off track and you will still live and source from other places. And then you'll come back. But you know you're living in your purpose when you exude steadiness and ease. You move with grace.

You have a sense of confidence and you're in touch with your knowing. You stop paying attention to what other people are doing and you stop asking for permission because you know you don't need to. And yes, it's still scary. And yes, there are still no guarantees, but you don't need them when you're in your purpose. The journey is truly enough. The present is truly enough. Even when you're flustered, you move gracefully.

So the big question is, how do we do that? How do we get started? Where do we find ourselves so that we can live in alignment with ourselves so that we can know why we're here and so that we can express that, amplify that, be that? So for context, listen to the Spiritual Nine to Five podcast, episode one, maybe even episode two. In these episodes, I share my own story of how I got out of my head.

how I got out of my accomplishments, how I got out of my need for constant growth and movement, and how I stepped into myself and into my purpose. And then I want you to think about who is selling you the story that you need a massive transformation in order to be who the fuck you already are. What do they have to gain? What are you giving away?

Ask yourself that next time you sign up for your gym membership or a new diet or feel like you need to quit your job to start your own business or feel like you need to have a career or buy a house or get married or even try a new thing. Are you looking for yourself or are you distracting yourself from what you already are, from what you already have and from what truly matters?

Marie Groover (02:51.726)

I'm not against gym memberships or diets or quitting your job or not quitting your job or finding new hobbies or Netflixing your life away. Trust me, I love all of those things. And they all have their place. They are not always a distraction. Sometimes we need these things to keep us in line, to help us connect in, to ground down. And if whatever is calling you is coming from your heart, by all means, I will be your biggest fan and your biggest supporter. But...

And in previous episodes, I've said it, I'm going to repeat it. There is nothing outside of you that can give you the answer to yourself. There's nothing outside of you that can hand you the keys to your life. You already have the keys. You are already in the driver's seat. You're literally driving right now and you know who you are. You know how to drive and you know where you're going. But if you want a checklist of what worked for me in my embodiment of authenticity,

Genuine MG. This is what I advise. Number one, get quiet enough to hear your heart. This doesn't mean to start meditating or to pick a spiritual practice. Remember, there's nothing outside of you that can tell you who you are. What I mean by get quiet enough to hear your heart is to learn what yes, what no, and what maybe feels like in your body.

To learn what these things feel like in your gut. So how do you do that? My advice is to start small. Practice in tiny bits. When you wake up in the morning, ask yourself, do I want to get out of bed? Yes or no. Do I want to put on this robe? Yes or no. Do I want to walk to the kitchen? Do I want to look out the window and see the sunrise? Yes or no.

Do I want this cup of coffee that I make every single day? Do I want it today in this moment right now? Yes or no. Do I actually want to dial into this meeting or meet this friend or go to this engagement or log into work at this exact moment in time? Yes or no. One question at a time though. And just allow yourself a moment to feel and hear the response yes or no.

Marie Groover (05:17.601)

Step two, honor what you find and listen. If your heart says no, that means no. If you're not sure how to communicate this to your friends or family or people in your life who might be worlds away from listening to their own hearts, do your very best not to lie, do your very best not to apologize, not to explain or not to make an excuse. Try a simple, can't commit right now.

No thank you. And if you're not sure how to communicate this to yourself, if you're not sure how to honor what comes up, try the same thing. I'm not ready to do this right now. Can I bring myself along in that journey and understand? Or if you can't give that, that's okay too.

Listen to the yes or no. Honor that in acknowledgement. Just acknowledge what comes up, yes or no.

Step three, check in with yourself regularly. Ask yourself, is this me? Am I being myself? And you don't need to know who you are to know that you aren't being you. So just like when you politely decline a friend or a family member, try not to explain to yourself why you are or are not being yourself. Just acknowledge and adjust if you feel called. Number four, hmm.

and stop trying to answer the big questions. Stop holding onto a story or a reason or an explanation behind everything. Just stick to the small questions for now. The questions that you can answer yes or no, the occasional maybe. Those can be complex enough. You don't have to know why to be it or to do it or to experience it. And you absolutely have no responsibility to explain the meaning of life.

Marie Groover (07:20.266)

or the workings of the universe, or the underpinnings to your complex and ever-changing being to anyone, not even to yourself. Number five, stop planning. Yes, I mean this, and this might be the hardest thing of all. Like, set a container of time, one month, four months, six months, one year, and do not plan a single thing.

Do not agree to anything in advance. Don't shift your schedule for anyone else. Shift your schedule only for yourself. Get rid of your schedule altogether. Follow your intuition, follow your desires on a consistent, regular, everyday, moment to moment basis. I told you this one was tough. Allow things to unfold and pay attention to how you react without judgment. Simply observe yourself.

Part of getting to know ourselves and part of learning to love ourselves, part of falling in love with ourselves is observing who we are and accepting that.

Which brings me to number six. Don't judge it. Don't categorize it. Don't explain it. Just let it. I actually say this to my partner. We joke. When I feel that he's telling me what to do or imposing something on me, big or small, I'll say, just let me live. But I offer this to you to say with a light heart to yourself and to others, let me live.

and let yourself live, let yourself be. You don't have to have an idea of what living is to do it. You don't have to follow a philosophy or have a philosophy. You don't have to have a routine or a structure around being yourself. Actually, there isn't one. When you set one up, you're limiting yourself. You just have to allow yourself to be without thought, without justification, without judgment.

Marie Groover (09:22.166)

without category, without explanation, just you, simply being. When you're living your purpose, AKA living authentically, being connected and truly embodied in self, life isn't easier, but your navigation of it will be. And you'll still get off track and you'll still live in source from other places and then you'll come back. So come back now.

Allow yourself to simply be.

Marie Groover (09:57.74)

And that's it for this episode. If you add any of these to your own authentic embodiment practice, if you feel more and more yourself, reach out. I want to hear all about it. And I would be remiss if I didn't invite you to join my next group container, Your Soul's Purpose. It's seven weeks of exploring your intuition, yourself, your purpose, and your joy, so that you can live on your own terms with more fulfillment, more confidence, worth, joy, and ease.

We kick off together in a small and cozy group setting in mid February. Join us if you fill the call.

Marie Groover (10:39.126)

Thank you for listening to the Spiritual 9-5 podcast with myself, Marie from The Corporate Psychic. Save and follow for more wisdom. I also invite you to follow me on Instagram at thecorppsychic and I would love for you to join our community. It's called TCP Community and Courses and you can find it on Mighty Networks. And if you want to go big on you, reach out. I want to work with you. Wherever you are, whatever is on your mind. I hope to meet again.

maybe in the next episode right here. I'm honoring you and with gratitude, good day.