Episode 2. Amplify Your Existence with Purpose, Values, & Joy

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Marie Groover (00:05.027)

Welcome to episode two of the Spiritual 9to5 podcast hosted by myself, Marie Gruver of The Corporate Psychic. Today I'm going to talk about the importance of articulating your purpose and knowing what you value so that you can amplify your existence and experience true joy and fulfillment.

If you can articulate your purpose and use your values as the parameters for how you fulfill your purpose, then you will experience joy and fulfillment in everything that you do. But knowing your values, that's the most important if you want to be happy in this life. Your purpose, your values and joy. These are three things that are innate to your existence. They are part of what makes you you.

then you're born with them. They're not determined by what's outside of you. Often, however, we get them confused with what's external. And because the key to what's inside of you cannot be found outside of you, these internal characteristics can also not be found outside of you. So let's step through them, starting with purpose. Your purpose is innate to you. It's fundamental to who you authentically are. In fact,

There is nothing that you need to do to fulfill your purpose. You are fulfilling it right now by being alive. You fully fulfill it in the moments that you are your full self, regardless of the situation around you. And you can amplify the outer effects of your purpose and ultimately increase your impact when you connect with it, know it, and can articulate it. But if you don't know what your purpose is, don't worry so much.

Just be yourself and it will come through. Your values, the intangible things that you absolutely cannot live without, are also innate to your existence. Now, it's very helpful to know what you value in order to feel fulfilled. It's actually more important to understand what you value than it is to understand what you're here to do if you want to feel fulfilled. Your values are core to your being and they are the key to your happiness.

Marie Groover (02:27.82)

And I believe that what you deeply and truly value the most is part of your blueprint for existence in this lifetime. It's part of what makes us all unique. You see, your values dictate your experience in this world. And if you know them, you can use them as parameters for your life and what you choose to experience. More on this soon. Okay, so joy. Joy comes from within. It can be catalyzed from something outside of you.

but you don't actually need anything to experience it except for yourself. If you aren't sure what brings you joy, connect with your values. And then when you're able to experience your values, that's when you feel joy.

So if you know me, or if you follow me on Instagram, you know that I love surfing and that I live my entire life around the tides and the swells. My top three values are authenticity, freedom, and wisdom for reference. When people ask me, what brings you joy? I used to answer surfing, but what if I told you that it may not be surfing itself that brings me joy, but that it's the experience of my authentic expression.

and the experience of freedom, two of my top values, not to mention the wisdom that I soak in every time I'm in the water. Those are the things that actually bring me joy when I surf. It's experiencing my values in real time because I can have surf sessions that aren't fun. I can have surf sessions that don't feel joyous, actually, that are quite frustrating. How could that be possible if surfing

was the thing itself that brought me joy. It couldn't. The truth of the matter is sometimes I paddle out and I don't get to experience my authentic expression. I don't feel free. I'm not feeling like I'm soaking in the wisdom from the water. Sometimes it's frustrating and sometimes it's messy. But when I am able to experience my values, everything comes together and it's the most joyous experience of my life. So pro tip.

Marie Groover (04:37.336)

When you're able to experience your values, that's when you'll feel joy.

And perhaps a bigger pro tip, a life tip, and the key to amplifying your existence on this planet. If you can articulate your purpose and use your values as the parameters for how you fulfill your purpose, then you will experience joy in everything that you do. And I know I already said that your purpose is innate to you, but in fact, there's nothing outside of you that can be the solution to finding knowing or being yourself.

There's nothing outside of you that can bring you joy or fulfillment or ease or bliss on a deep soul level. Not yoga or a mindfulness practice, not your job, career or passion, common things that are mistaken for a purpose. Not your diet or your routine, not your partner or your friends, not hobbies, not children, not money, not drugs, not books, not podcasts, not your therapist or your healer, not even me.

None of these things can tell you what your purpose is. None of these things can tell you what you value or even tell you what brings you joy. They can help, but they aren't the answer. So remember I said, it's not surfing that brings me joy. It's the experience of my value. So if I said something to you that brings you joy like yoga or a passion of yours or maybe even your children, ask yourself, reflect for a moment and think about

What is it about the experience of the thing that you think brings you joy, that you're actually really drawn to? And what about the times when you practice or do the thing that you thought brings you joy, that maybe it's not so fun. So like, maybe when you go to yoga and you leave and you're not feeling super full or fulfilled or happy or joyous, what happened then? What was different? Think about that. This is important because it's the intangibles.

Marie Groover (06:39.392)

the things that exist within us, the things that we have access to, regardless of what's outside of us, those are the things that give us the answers that clue us in.

Yet we often look to these external things, not just for answers, but to guide us. But these things, all of these things are just things. But if we know how to use them, they're also tools, right? They're not our guides. They are not in and of themselves our paths. You are your guide. You know your path because you are the creator of it and it doesn't look like anyone else's.

As much as we resist this knowing, there is not a roadmap or a checklist for your life, your success, and especially not for knowing who you are. And there's not a list of things that you can do or experience or have or be.

All of these things, career, diet, routine, hobbies, your therapist, they can all help you deepen your relationship and connection to yourself, but none of these things are the answer or the solution to who you are, to what brings you joy, to how you can feel fulfilled. I want to make this real to you. If we're talking about career, one of the things on the list, the guidance is not to seek yourself in your career, but to use your career as a tool.

A tool where you are the artist and the builder, where you are the one who uses and directs your career so that it may honor who you are, so that your career may reflect back who you are, so that your career may work for you. Not the other way around. You are not your career. You are not working for your career. And your career doesn't hold any key indicators of why you're here on this planet, despite what society will tell you.

Marie Groover (08:34.198)

Your career is external to you and therefore cannot be your purpose for existence. You don't need a career to exist and you are not alive to work despite cultural norms. There might be a purpose in your career itself to get paid or even better to use as a tool to create your dream life, but your career is not your purpose. So let's pick a career together and drive this home. Let's use the career of a secretary.

and I'll talk in first person so that I can sub in my values too. My top three values are actually freedom, authenticity, and wisdom. If I am in a job or career situation where I'm not able to express at least one of these values, I will not be happy on a deep and fundamental level. And if I don't know what my values are, I will not understand why I'm not happy. This is important.

So let's say that I'm a secretary and I really fucking love secretarial work. I'm the best at doing secretarial things. I'm a natural. I'm so good at being a secretary and all of the components of the job itself are things that I find to be fun or have passion around. If all of this is true and I'm not free to do my job as I see best, I won't be happy. Or if I'm not able to be my authentic self and show up as the person that I am, I am not going to be happy.

No matter how many boxes of things that I'm good at or enjoy are checked by the job or by my employer, it's just not going to do it for me. And unless I'm connected with my values, I could be in this job for years and be unhappy and not understand why I'm not unhappy or why I'm not happy. I could even switch roles or companies or quit altogether and start my own business. But if I'm not connected with my values, if I don't know them,

I may be reaching in the dark for what does make me happy for my entire life. This is so important and so core to living your life with ease and joy. If you can articulate your purpose and use your values as the parameters for how you fulfill your purpose, then you will experience joy and fulfillment in everything that you do. So if your top three values are not met in a situation, you will not be happy.

Marie Groover (10:56.064)

And if you don't know what you value, you may also not know what truly brings you joy. So even if you know why you're here on this planet, you might still not be happy. Are you feeling me? And this doesn't just go for your career. If we take relationships as an example, if I'm dating someone, if I'm sharing a home or a life with someone, and I cannot experience my values.

If I cannot be authentic, if I'm not free, if I cannot touch into the wisdom of myself and talk about it and share it, I'm not going to be happy. It doesn't matter if I'm with a dream partner. It doesn't matter if they do the dishes or clean the house or take me out on nice dates or make loads of money. Y'all, I've actually been here. I was married to someone and I got a divorce because I was unhappy. And I didn't know why I was unhappy because I wasn't connected to my values.

So I couldn't even explain what I wanted or needed on a fundamental level. If you're in a situation where something just doesn't feel good or something just doesn't feel right or you're not happy and you have no idea why, check in with this because there's nothing outside of you that will tell you who you are, why you are meant to be here, what you are meant to do, or how to be happy.

So rather than changing situation after situation or experiencing life transformation after life transformation or switching jobs or quitting your job or trying something new or I don't know, experiencing new hobbies or work, maybe start with your values. If you wanna know why you are here, if you wanna know what you're here to do, read Simon Sinek, Start With Why.

or book a find your purpose session with me. If you want to be happy doing that thing that you're here to do, figure out the intangibles that you value.

Marie Groover (12:53.558)

We also do this in my find your purpose working session, by the way. But I'm not telling you this to sell you my work. I'm telling you this because I want you to be happy. I want you to enjoy your life and live with confidence and ease while feeling fulfilled, while experiencing pure joy, and while making the biggest impact that you possibly can on the world.

Trust me when I say that you cannot do and feel all of these things if you are not connected with your purpose and your values Whatever you need to do to connect with these do yourself a huge life favor and go find out because if you can connect with your purpose and values Then you can start using the things outside of you as tools to know yourself better as tools to be happier to be free and fulfilled to find joy in your life and all of these things outside of you

your diet, your hobbies, your therapist, your healers, your friends, your relationships, your career. Those things won't be paths anymore. All of those things will start to work for you and reflect back to you and honor the human that you are.

Marie Groover (14:06.412)

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Marie Groover (14:10.774)

Thank you for listening to the Spiritual 9-5 podcast with myself, Marie from The Corporate Psychic. Save and follow for more wisdom. I also invite you to follow me on Instagram at thecorppsychic and I would love for you to join our community. It's called TCP Community and Courses and you can find it on Mighty Networks. And if you want to go big on you, reach out. I want to work with you. Wherever you are, whatever is on your mind. I hope to meet again.

maybe in the next episode right here. I'm honoring you and with gratitude, good day.